The layers of an onion …..

Apologies but the ghost writer is back for one day only and normal service will no doubt resume tomorrow.

We have over several days likened the surgery and recovery to the layers of an onion being removed, each day another layer of equipment or hurdles are taken away. Some of those layers are physical but there are a few tricky blighters that are psychological hurdles that are slowly dealt with and worked on.

We have had a day of two halves today and this has been the order of it:

The shower…….

Bed baths and strip washes have been the way forward, but today with the PCA taken down a shower was a real treat (for him not me!) Thankfully the curtain was opaque.

The big sleep

A day that started so well and included a visitor (to be on a later blog) has ended with exhaustion taking over. One of the expectations of major surgery and recovery is that there are going to be times when your head and body say “enough is enough”, your mood will be affected and you may not want to see or deal with anything. For me this is so hard to see, Simon’s zest and zeal have for the moment left him, but I know this is temporary and it will be back as quickly as it has disappeared. We will, like every other part of this experience ride this part out and kick it straight out of the door. Do not be afraid of these days, discuss them before they arrive as they sure will and know you will get through them. Sleep is a great healer and Simon has been sleeping for a few hours now, he is exhausted. We will strike this day off like the others, this is one of those tricky layers that we will be glad to see the back of.


Day 8 – ‘And then there was 1’


Day 10 – ‘Show and tell’


  1. Tracey HoneyC

    Slowly slowly catchy monkey – as you say Ali sleep is healing him and making him stronger – although it is great for everyone to see his blog and to know how well he is doing, he also needs to take it easy and rest well x send him our love and also to you Ali – his truly tower of strength xx

  2. Jane Oliver

    I am blown away with how the pair of you have been this past week. And it is just a week since this unbelievable surgery. I am so very proud of you both and today is, as you say, totally to be expected. On the bright side, you must ha e had a quiet day, apart from your visitor. Loads of love to you both as ever xxxxx

  3. Rosemary and Francis Polglase

    Awww …thinking of Simon and you…it’s understandable as you point out. I’m sure the sleep will help his mind and body.
    Take care…tomorrow is another day ..
    Lots of love to you both xx

  4. Mel Gwynn

    Keep going you two. Progress has been amazing you will defeat this. You are both inspirational.

  5. Pauline williams

    Take each day as it comes , you are both amazing!!!

  6. Karen Johnson

    Good days and bad are bound to happen but given all that he and you have been through Ali his and your spirits are amazing.
    Following my surgery and chemo I listened to my body and what it was telling me, and it worked.
    Tomorrow is another day 😀

    Much love as always xx

    • Simon

      Yesterday was definitely a ‘low day’, everything just shut right down. Today is a different day altogether . Chalk and cheese, back to Tigger again

  7. Rosie

    Sending all our love and best wishes to you both keep your spirits up love rose and Chris xxx

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